Change Is Coming – I Feel It In My Heart

Change is coming.  I’ve seen it in my stars.

I started this blog some time ago with the idea that I would ‘fiddle’ around with it have some fun, find my ‘voice’ and that basically would be that.  But all that has changed.  I haven’t found my ‘voice’.

Nothing.  Nada.  Zip.  Zero.

I’ve certainly had some fun.

Best of all I’ve met some wonderful people.  That’s been the top experience.  Bloggers are a bunch of fantastic people.  I’ve read loads of blogs from successful bloggers and what they all have in common is their generosity.  They are so willing to share their secrets and seem genuinely interested in helping you to ‘find yourself’ in your blog and be as successful as they are.

You all have been wonderful, your comments to me have inspired and heartened me.  I discovered we all have some things in common:  like a love of beauty and I don’t mean physical beauty.  It’s expressed through words as in poetry or in art as through paintings.  We all have a similar life view: it’s important to share and to care for others, and that has been an amazing insight for me.  That’s just awesome.

So it’s been a great journey.  But I’m discovering that I’m losing focus and direction.

This tells me it’s time to change.

I’m one of those people who need to have a purpose, or a focus, or a direction.  When my husband and I go out walking around the town.  He can simply amble around without any purpose.  It drives me mad – but when I stick with him, we discover lovely out-of-the-way places.  So I’m learning to let go a bit.  But not with this blog.  I put a lot of effort into it and I need to feel it fulfills something within me – that feeling has gone.

So I am in the process of starting another blog.  It’s not up and running yet.  I still have work to do with it.  But its focus is entirely on low self-esteem and body image.  This is something I’m passionate about.

I struggled with low self-esteem when I was younger so I know exactly how it makes you a ‘prisoner’ in your own life.

It affects everybody.  Men and women.  Adults and children. Vulnerable adolescents.  It’s linked a lot with eating disorders.  It’s a massive subject and will keep me happy and involved for a long time!  A lot of stuff I’ve begun here like the journalling and meditation and dream work I shall continue to do but at a deeper level – if it fits I’ll do it.

THE WAY AHEAD

I’m not sure what to do about Lets Go.  I don’t want to cast it adrift, but I don’t think I can continue unless I can come up with something fresh for it.  I’ve considered upgrading to a premium site, which I fancy doing, that’s a challenge, or I may continue as I am but put a purpose into the blog and focus on that.

So I’m not throwing in the towel yet.  You all have been an inspiration to me and I don’t treat that lightly.

Please, if you’ve got ideas let me know – I value your opinion and am relying on it now to help me decide the way ahead.

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Looking forward to receiving great ideas from you all.

Take care.

When Enough is Never Enough

Life On The Treadmill

Life can feel like you’re running aimlessly on a treadmill going round and round in circles.  It’s useless.  It’s without direction.  It’s exhausting.  Yet we still keep on doing it.  The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.

What makes us do this?  Why do we do this?  How can we stop doing this?

All good questions.

My answer is simple.

Get off the treadmill.

Now.

Immediately.

The quickest way of doing that is to review what you’re doing that is contributing most to that feeling of boredom and monotony and drop it.  If it’s your job, look around to see if you can change it  Or get a new job.

Try changing one or two little aspects of your life.  It doesn’t have to be a big thing like your job.  Not right away.  Start with little things.

Try walking instead of driving.  Try going without the latest gadget or fashion item.

Itemise whatever is clogging-up your life.  Look through your ‘busyness’ schedule.  Eliminate what you can, substitute something else.  Take the dog for a walk in the park.  Try out a new course at your local college.  Join a group. Meditate in silence on your own.

Paint a picture in the garden.

Sit out under the starts one night, leaving the TV far behind you.  Just let the peace of moonlight and stars wash over you.

Befriend someone.  Especially someone you don’t like.

Complete a job you started years ago.

Throw away all those magazines telling you how to change your image by buying this, that or the other product.  For your hair, for your skin, for your nails, for your feet, for your stomach.  Chuck them all away.  Celebrate who you are and what you look like.

Stand in front of the mirror, smile and say ‘oh yes I like that’.  ‘I like who I am and what I look like’.  And celebrate it.

Have a glass of wine.  Eat a piece of chocolate.  And stop worrying all the time about the calories, your hips, your stomach.  You permanently in a state of anxiety and worry and stress is causing more damage than one piece of chocolate could ever do.

Stop worrying about the past, stop fretting over the future and celebrate now – it’s a gift, that’s why its called ‘The Present’.

One of the biggest things is watching the news on TV.  I don’t say don’t watch it, just keep it to a minimum.  It can be addictive.  It will hook into your insecurities and uncertainties  and feed into them.  So be careful not to watch too much.

Beware of the fear mongerers, they are not hard to spot, they are full of things for you to feel fearful of.  For example, one of the worst was the fear of vaccines for the measles.  No truth was ever found to substantiate the rumours and at the end of the day, your child getting measles without a vaccine is possibly a worst case scenario than the original vaccine.

Remember the wine? Oh yes that was the question.  Wine, red or white, Are we to drink it, or not drink it.  That is the question.  That one went back and forth for ages.  First its bad for you, then its good for you.  By the time they’d finished with it – nobody was any the wiser about what was good or not.

I’m not suggesting we ignore all advice medical or not.  But let’s be careful and let’s get more information on a subject before we act.

Let’s not be  like everyone else thats stuck on the treadmill running round and round looking for answers.

Instead lets search out answers for ourselves to our satisfaction and then make decisions based on that information we’ve resourced.

Get off the treadmill.

• Release energy for you to invest in something you enjoy doing.
• Enables you to make priorities in you life so you can spend time wisely on projects you and your family can benefit from.
• Feel more fulfilled
• Breed success and nothing breeds more success than when you succeed.
• Fill your life with vitality
• Have more energy

These are some of the benefits when you take the plunge by getting off the treadmill.

And finally:

Be happy.  Be yourself.  If others don’t like it, then let them be.  Happiness is a choice.  Life isn’t about pleasing everybody.

What are you going to do? Stay on the treadmill and please everybody else.  Or get off the treadmill and please yourself.

What’s it to be?